-- 懷特 (美國作家)
"In education we are striving not to teach youth to make a living, but to make a life."
- William Allen White
Over the last few weeks, a lot of powerful women have talked about the significance of knowing when to walk away from ventures that no longer feel rewarding. At the end of September, for example, we watched as Blake Lively gracefully and humbly announced the shutting down of her lifestyle site Preserve, which she ultimately didn't feel a) lived up to its original mission of "making a difference in people's lives." Not long afterward, we learned that our favorite funny lady, Amy Schumer, walked away from a $1 million book deal because she knew she deserved more—and ultimately landed an $8 million book deal. (You go, girl.)
過去數週，不少有名望的女性公開談論選擇退場時機的重要性，以適時擺脫熱情不在的「現任」。舉例來說，就在今年9月底，美國女星布蕾克·萊芙莉(Blake Lively)低調宣布結束她的生活時尚網站Preserve，因為它無法達成她「改變人們生活」的心願，不如選擇優雅退場。就在此事不久，美國另一位人氣俏妞艾米·舒默(Amy Schumer)也拒絕一份100萬美元的書約--最終她獲得了800萬美元的酬勞。
While we don't have Blake or Amy's cell-phone numbers (they'd be such good mentors!), we do have the ultimate questions to ask when dealing with a similar, should-I-walk-or-should-I-stay job dilemma. Compliments of millennial career coach Ashley Stahl, if you answer "no" to two or more of these questions, Stahl says it's time to have an honest conversation with yourself and consider moving on. If you answer "no" to one (or none)? Don’t walk away yet—you might just be going through a temporary b) rough patch.
1. Is This Experience 1.) Serving Me?
What are you gaining from your current role? If the answer is "not much," it may be a sign that it's time to walk away—but not without analyzing what, if anything, you enjoyed during your time with the company. "[Understanding] those benefits can translate into a much better fit in your next step," said Stahl.
2. Are There More Opportunities For Growth?
This question is especially important for those who are still new to the job. Things may not feel right just yet, but remember that you're still adjusting. Think about the future of your current gig: If you can see opportunities for learning and growing, you owe it to yourself to keep exploring this new step in your career.
3. Do I Feel Valued?
Do you feel like your work is being recognized for what it's truly worth? "We want to feel a basic level of respect in our work," Stahl pointed out, so if your employer isn't recognizing your efforts or if your audience doesn't seem to value your product, then you're going to feel disrespected.
4. Would Someone I Admire c) Stick Around?
Think of one of your role models, and how you want to embody that person in your own career. Would that person stick around in your current situation? Stahl said this Q&A has provided some of the biggest clarity for her clients.
5. Am I 2) Taking Criticism TooPersonally?
Sure, this question might feel a little silly, but if you're letting constructive criticism get to you, you might just need to develop a thicker skin. "A lot of people expel a lot of energy managing other people's experiences of them," Stahl said. Remember: An appropriate level of feedback from your boss means he or she actually cares about your growth and development.
6. Does This Experience Still 3) Light Me Up?
Plain and simple: If the fire is gone, maybe it's time for you to move on, too.
(1) serve sb./sth.對…有用；適合某人
指某件事／物對某人或某事物來說是有益的，用法為sth. serves sb./sth.。
The teaching experience at school serves her well.那份教書的工作經驗對她來說是個加分。
(2) take it personally把…放在心上
Don't take the criticism too personally. Your parents just want you to be independent.
(3) light sb./sth.up使某人／某物充滿希望
light up是照亮的意思，light sb./sth. up就是鼓勵某人向上或是讓某物變得更好。
His words of wisdom lighted me up and guided me through difficult times.